Friendships, Lovers, Career

All of this time alone has granted me the space to determine whether I want life to completely pull me around by the nose or if I want some say in the matter.

The past weeks of dating, making my stand with FG about silence, and coming back from vacation to a thorough mess at work has re-developed that need to start a stronger assertiveness. But how to convey this assertiveness without being a smartass and a bitch?

So I have some questions to ask. Not that you need to answer. Not that I want a lecture. But if anyone has thoughts I am open to hearing them. You can even call me a bitch or a smartass. I don't ask these questions to necessarily make a change I don't feel comfortable in making. You can e-mail me if you aren't comfortable in saying things here.

I ask to find out if I'm alive, too much alive, or only half living.

Here goes.

• In the spirit of "When Harry Met Sally," do you feel that men and women can be friends? And to trump that, do you feel that they can be friends after they were something different from friends?
• What would you consider to be consistant behavior in friendship?
• What proves to you that someone is your friend?
• What proves to you that a lover is worth the act of sex?
• How many interests do you have to share with someone to consider that they are a friend?
• How few interests can you share with someone and still be their friend or lover?
• What to you is a partnership?
• What to you is a team?
• Have you ever worked with a team?
• When you have had sex with someone, when did you speak to them next? (E.g., how much time elapsed? Hours? Days? Weeks?)

That should be enough to get us all started.

I think I am ready for these relationships, but I don't know how to meet them without assaulting them, or caring too much. I'm hoping to learn that next.

Sleep well, dear reader.